Overcoming Disappointment

Dear Reader,

Proverbs 13:12 Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but desire fulfilled is a tree of life.

We can become disappointed in people, including family, ourselves and God. Disappointment can lead us into discouragement which can even take us into depression. I’m sure we have all been disappointed at one time or another in our loved ones not meeting our expectations. I recall early in my marriage my husband not living up the expectations I had for him. He did not want my list of what I expected him to repair and fix at the end of his work day. Of course my father did this for my mother so I thought every man did so. There are bosses, pastors, teachers, the government, any number of people to be disappointed with. The source of your peace and joy is not people, it is Jesus.

In our society of performance equals success, we must be careful not to condemn ourselves for falling short. Falling short means we are comparing ourselves to others in which case we will never measure up. We look at spotlight people and forget the journey that they went through. Also be mindful that God has process for all of us. I thought the day I was credentialed in ministry that I would receive phone calls from all over the world inviting me to speak. God had a different plan. For I was simply not ready.

People get disappointed in God for not answering their prayers. Maybe the timing was wrong or maybe it was not His will. I have found in counseling sessions that people wonder why God “permitted” their suffering. God is not permitting suffering. He is not the author of evil. John 10:10 says “the thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life; and have it abundantly.” We live in a fallen world and we have free will. God is not stepping into situations without invitation and He is also not moved by need. He is moved by faith. Jesus’ ministry was full of healing, deliverance and even raising the dead. Jesus came to “destroy the works of the devil.” 1 John 3:8

How do we overcome disappointment? By repenting and allowing the Lord to renew our hope and even listen for His perspective on the situation. This is a season where your hope deferred will become a desire fulfilled as you surrender it to the Lord and receive a new perspective on it, or simply let it go!